MONTHLY QUESTION
We’re starting off this whole Come Alive journey with the centering question, “am I out of control?”.
Remember, there will always be much more to these question than meets the eye, and that’s intentional! Expansive questions ask us to get curious and open up our perspective (which, in turn, allows us to welcome in more aliveness).
Before going any further, take a little time to listen to our first podcast episode of the month, called: "Am I out of control?" ◐ Part 1. This’ll help set the stage for what we’ll be exploring together this month.
On the 15th of the month, our second episode of the month will go live, called: "Am I out of control?" ◑ Part 2 with Ellie Seilern. This one will add another layer of richness to our exploration by bringing in another perspective.
Toolkit Prep
As we touched on in the Resources area, the most important tools for you to bring to your self-study practice are yourself and a sense of curiosity - but you can add in anything else that brings you joy and helps you cultivate a sense of connection.
I personally love a good ritual, and I find that setting a ceremonial space with some of my favorite simple tools creates an awesome-feeling and safe container for me to unfold into.
Have fun with this! Create an experience that speaks directly to who you are and what you love. Even just the simple process of curating your personal toolkit (which will likely change and evolve over time) will facilitate a deeper connection with your intuition, mama nature, and life itself.
My personal favorite tools are both practical and enjoyable - they help me engage in the present moment, delight in my senses, and intentionally shift my vibration - all leading to more aliveness. It’s like I’ve set up a little Pavlov’s Dogs reward system for myself, and I actually wake up pumped to dive into my practice. It just feels so good (which also makes challenging days feel a little softer and kinder).
You’re only limited by your imagination in terms of how many or how few tools you want to include, but as a bare minimum for this practice (in addition to this module on whatever device you’re using), you’ll at least want to have these at-the-ready:
A notebook
A pen/pencil
Headphones
This month’s Podcast episodes (Part 1 released on the 1st, Part 2 released on the 15th)
This month’s essential oil (if applicable - details towards the bottom of this page)
centering meditation
Now that you’ve prepped your self-study toolkit, it’s time to clear some energetic space for your practice and get centered. Take a few moments to find a comfortable seat, pop in your headphones, and close your eyes. Then press play and let me guide you through connecting with the aliveness in and around you, dropping out of your thinking mind and into your heart, and moving into a coherent state with this grounding breathwork meditation.
Self Study
If this is your first time workin’ your way through a Self-Study Module, I am so pumped that you’re here - and I’d encourage you to take a quick little detour over to the Welcome, Start Here! page to get a better feel for how we’re exploring and experimenting with aliveness together.
Before diving into your journal prompts, here are some quick reminders to keep top-of-mind:
Practice radical self-honesty. You don't need to hide from yourself or anyone else.
All of your feelings are welcome, and there's no need to fear them. Let them vibrate through and out of you instead of stuffing them down.
There's no need to set expectations or cast judgments, it'll just make your journey more challenging.
Be gentle with yourself and others, we're all doing the best we can, and we're all at different points on our personal paths.
Regularly question and investigate thoughts, feelings, and actions - especially those that feel constricting. What would have to change to make them feel expansive?
Move in the direction of more freedom, always (even when it's the more challenging option).
Have FUN!
A couple notes related to this month’s theme…
Regarding this particular module where we’re exploring the concept of control together - there are some common areas where we humans tend to feel challenged, like: relationships, career, money, and outer appearance - which are important to consider as you move through the exercises, but also remember to open your focus and awareness to encompass all of the different elements of your life, because you never know which little nuggets of insight may create huge shifts for you.
Also! Don’t forget to share your explorations and experiences with the Come Alive Community along the way. Connecting with kind people on similar paths makes this whole self-study thing feel even more life-giving.
Journal Prompts
Now’s the time to get cozy with your journal and start working your way through this month’s prompts. Word to the wise - don’t feel like you need to get through all of these in one sitting. Allow them to weave themselves through your daily experience over the course of the month, see what type of pace and format feels best to you and go with it.
Each question in the left column is meant to be considered in the context that’s explained at the top of the columns to the right. Let curiosity and honesty lead the way, they’ll never steer you wrong!
Questions
Genuine Curiosity:
How can I explore this concept in my own life? Dive deeper than surface level.
Sun
Outer Expression:
How would I answer this question in an interview?
How do I think I *should* answer?
Moon
Inner Expression:
How would I answer this question in my journal?
How do I *really* feel?
Align
Outer+Inner Expression Misalignment
What needs to change to align my outer and inner expression?
Noticing+shedding the inauthentic
Earth
Integrated Expression:
How would I answer this question as a fully-integrated, authentic version of myself?
Embodying my innate wholeness.
How does asking myself the question, “am I out of control” make me feel?
Why do you think that is?
How does the expression, “trust the process” make me feel?
Why do I think that is?
How would I describe my relationship with change throughout my life?
Which periods of change have felt most challenging and painful? Why?
Which periods of change have felt most natural and effortless? Why?
Can I pinpoint examples of how these experiences influence how I relate to change in other areas of my life?
In what situations and with which people do I find myself putting my guard up, and being cautious of what I say/do and how I look?
What are my most common strategies to avoid discomfort and judgment?
What makes these situations/people feel unsafe to be myself?
Are these fears valid?
How does seeking external approval make me feel?
In what situations and with which people do I feel like I can let my guard down and be fully myself?
Where might this comfort and self-assuredness come from?
What makes these situations/people feel safe to be myself?
How does choosing internal approval make me feel?
How willing am I to place my trust in people and situations?
Do I truly trust myself? Why or why not?
Do I truly trust other people? Why or why not?
Do I truly trust the unfolding of my life? Why or why not?
What situations feel challenging to allow myself to release control and trust that they’ll unfold as they should?
Why do I think these feel the most challenging for me?
What beliefs are standing in my way of being able to fully trust?
In what situations can I most easily release control and trust that they’ll unfold as they should?
Why do I think these feel the most effortless for me?
What beliefs support me in anchoring into full trust?
How would I like to transform my current relationship with the concept of control, to my ideal (a.k.a. best-feeling) relationship with it?
Integration Experiments
Ready to take your practice our into the real world? It’s experiment time! Pop on your scientist goggles and bring self-study into your daily life with these control self-check questions (for when you need them, in the moment):
Am I attached to a specific outcome?
Am I fearful of a specific outcome?
Am I seeking external validation or approval?
What am I *actually* in control of right now?
Am I taking full, deep breaths?
Am I experiencing any feelings of constriction or rigidity in my mind or body?
Am I open to and aware of my surroundings?
Am I open enough to take in new information, or is my focus very narrow?
PLANT MAGIC
Essential oils are my personal favorite plant allies to pair with my self-study practice. They each have their own unique vibrational frequency and energetic actions, and I’m constantly blown away by both the subtle and profound shifts that I experience while working with them intentionally.
While I love to encourage people to let their intuition lead the way when it comes to selecting oils for their practice, I wanted to offer a specific oil each month that I’ve hand-selected (intuitively, of course) to allow us to sink even deeper into our theme.
If you’ve ever worked with high-quality essential oils, you’ll already know that they’re super powerful for shifting our state and returning to balance in the moment, but there’s also something to be said for choosing to work with a specific essential oil for an extended period of time and leveraging the compound effect.
Creating an intentional connection with one oil each day for a full month will allow your relationship with the plant to deepen, while giving it time and space to work closely and consistently with you - both physically and energetically, and communicate its wisdom to you (which it will convey in all sorts of different ways if you choose to stay receptive).
As for guidance around how to use this month’s essential oil for best results, there are lots of options to choose from, but I lean towards a combo of topical and aromatic use to ensure the max vibration-shifting effects. I’ve included some usage ideas in the PDF below so you can give them a whirl.
This month, we’re getting cozy with Hawaiian Sandalwood, and oooh, baby - she’s a beaut. Check out the PDF below to get familiar with the magic she weaves.
Hawaiian Sandalwood
This month, we’re getting cozy with Hawaiian Sandalwood, and oooh, baby - she’s a beaut. Check out this PDF to get familiar with the magic she weaves.
Community Connection
Human connection makes the world go ‘round, and in the Come Alive community, you’re automatically among friends. Hop into our Community: Conscious Connection area to ask and answer questions, connect with other cool humans, share your experiences with the theme, and anything else that’s coming up for you. We can’t wait to get to know ya better.
